I touched on this slightly in my last blog. I am a single parent to a 9 year old little girl. Everything she has ever gotten has been from me or my family. It has taken us years to reach this point. I was working as a receptionist making $7/hour when Madi was born. We had NOTHING! Over the years that has gradually changed. My current job however, has allowed us to have more than we've ever had in the past. I have made a point not to overdo it...but, I also know I can't take it with me when I die, so I'd rather spend it where Madi can enjoy it, and I can enjoy her enjoying it!
She is also an only child, which means I have only 1 birthday a year to buy for & only 1 child at Christmas to go all out on. When there is only 1 child there is more money to spend on that child. But I can promise you, if you asked Madi if she would give up her Wii, motorcycle, PS2...whatever, for a brother or sister, she would do it in a heartbeat! Unfortunately, I can't provide that for her now. As a result, I have more money to spend on her. (As a result, not as a replacement)
So when my child is blessed with an awesome gift, must I be immediately be guilted by others who cannot or choose not to afford these things for themselves or their families.
My pastor often says we are so good at crying with our friends when they are mourning, but do we celebrate with them when life is good for them? I'm sure I've missed the mark myself...but I have made it a point to be aware of this.
My advice? Be a good friend, celebrate with your friends! Chances are we will share the Wii with you anyway!Labels: friendship, Spoiled |
